13. Practitioner - ISFJ (The Nurturer) - Too Good; Too Pure. Based on my experience, the most effective way to proceed would be.We are always careful to emphasise to the cohort that this measures behaviour. It can be useful in assessing stress, correct imposition (communication), energy and preferences. It does not measure a person's values, aptitude, honesty, intelligence, personality (nice or not) nor whether they have any mental health issues, are addicted or have been brainwashed. Conducted and composed by Elizabeth Hunter™ - Last Update 20 October, 2019
Statistics and Overview
Practitioner outline in pdf: Click here
Approx. Population US: - 7.0% - =6/16 - M:4.0% - F:10.0%.
Other Profiles: MYERS BRIGGS (MBTI) - ISFJ - The Nurturer Introvert, Sensing, Feeling, Judging. KIERSEY - Guardian - Protector. Artisan (=Craftsman) - Crafter. iPERSONIC - Good-natured Realist. Other - Defender.
Career: Medicine, education, social service, electrician or photographer.
Key like: A good prayer or contemplation.
Key hate: Harm to family members. Those who are flaky. Conflict and criticism.
Key factors: A know-it-all.
Key propensity: To appear to take things too personally.
Smarts: Socially smart. Music smart.
Missing in their lives: Contentedness.
Rankings: How organised ranking: 3/16. How dominant ranking: 15/16. How submissive ranking: 2/16.
Twosome Descripta™ - Courteous caretaker.
Augmentation: Underneath a warm, generous demeanor lies an individual with steely resolve and focus. Neurotic and uptight – they are desperate to secure a partner and have a family as quickly as possible and are more interested in keeping the peace than getting exactly what they want.
Point of Characta™ - Loyalty.
Seven Pos Traits:
1. Kind and considerate; highly aware of people's feelings.
2. Very dependable.
3. Stable, practical, down to earth.
4. Dislikes theory and abstract thought.
5. Enjoys creating structure and values security.
6. Extremely uncomfortable with conflict and confrontation.
7. Can be relied on to follow things to completion.
Pos Traits Description: The Practitioner has a huge capacity for both empathy and practicality. These individuals spend their lives gleaning wisdom from their experiences and storing information that can be used again in the future. They can quickly recall lessons from the past and apply them to the present to circumvent problems and create stability. They are careful, detail-oriented individuals, not rushing headlong into whatever looks fun or interesting, but analysing the situation realistically and considering how it will impact each person involved. Their insightfulness, warmth and grounded nature make them a pillar of comfort and strength in any team.
1. Too paranoid.
2. A know-it-all.
3. Self-depriving and altruistic (preoccupied with helping others, especially those close).
4. Not adaptive to new things. Doing new things is out of the question.
5. Unassertive of feelings.
6. Dislike of criticism and conflict.
7. Incompetent at communication.
8. Taking things personally. Has difficulty in drawing the line between business matters and personal matters and often makes irrational decisions when anxious.
9. Wears too many hats. Becomes overloaded with so many responsibilities.
10. Passive aggressive.
What you need to stop doing: Martyring yourself.
Nicknames: Mr. Loyal. Mr. Knowall. Weaver Bird. Cup of Tea. Defender. Sidekick. Alaskan Malamute.
Own Brand Fascination: Alert. Maintains order by keeping things on schedule and on budget. With Power as Secondary, The Coordinator - Constructive, Organised, Practical.
Surˌprise, surˈprise - you should not be surprised about these sorts of behaviour! No matter how horrid you are to Practitioners, they remain nice, optimistic people - it will always surprise you how much you like these good guys.
Pidgeonholed v. The Real World
P: Sweet, innocent, fragile and caring hearts who love their friends.
R: Hate conflict so much that they get second hand anxiety watching clichéd, emotional plot twist movies.
As a leader - Proficient
Augmentation: Bases decisions off of a thorough examination of knowledge (data, facts), as well as own feelings and values.
Dogma - Blind Faith: Devotion to the cause, whatever the cause.
Focus: Self-discipline for growth.
As a negotiator:
Style - Tend to Capitulate - eventually.
Result - Tend to be they lose and the other side wins.
Outcome - Very costly.
Examples: JACOB. George H.W. Bush. Mother Teresa.
At work & comparing with social
Worst workplace to be in: If it's run as a workplace that fails to provide workers with specific rules or instructions for the projects they are working on yet 'big things' are expected.
Compared to social: Scale 1 - 8. 1&2 Excellent; 3&4 Good; 5&6 Fair; 6&7 Poor.
High C with High D: Work: 6. Social: 8.
High C with High I: Work: 3. Social: 7.
High C with High S: Work: 2. Social: 1.5.
High C with High C: Work: 3. Social: 1.
At the job souk: Physician / Family GP; Dietitian / Nutritionist; Preschool / Primary Teacher; Guidance Counselor; Librarian; Nurse; Optician; Clerical Supervisor; Probation Officer.
Jobs and tasks: Making others happy. Providing practical services for others; Helping people with information; Planning social events; Being patient with others; Taking care of others; Getting answers for people now; Finding resources for people; Following written procedures; Making others feel comfortable and at ease; Serving; Focusing on what people need.
Promptness: On time. Rarely late for anything and might see this as a sign of disrespect. Extremely considerate of other people’s feelings and will be sure to be on time, often by arriving early. Great at time management and will allow extra time to get ready and plan ahead in order to ensure not show to up late as to do so may cause embarrassment.
Fulfilling Commitments: The Practitioner is certainly not afraid of commitment and prefers to follow through with things and honour commitments. They actually enjoy stability over having many options and, because of this, they value their responsibilities. Once the Practitioner has committed to something, it is highly unlikely that they will back out of it. They do not want to be seen as flighty or insincere and become frustrated with people who fit this description. The Practitioner realises that their actions affect others and, because of this, they want to be sure to make the right choices. Knowing that if they back out of their commitments the Practitioner will hurt someone else, they will be sure to follow through.
In a Meeting: Expert.
Under Pressure: The Practitioner's focus is attending to needs of those close and they handle this pressure reasonably well. They can handle pressure when it comes to the workplace, but dislike having to make in the moment decisions. The Practitioner wants to have plenty of time to process the information and come to a reasonable conclusion. They do not enjoy having to respond immediately, take risks, be made accountable or be criticised in any way and might become stressed by this. This is easy to spot in meetings etc. as they will be come passive-aggressive. More on this in Obnoxiousness Explorer™. Try asking a Practitioner to get in front people or speak up, they are frozen in time and cannot move. They need people to speak for them at halftime and would rather hide under a rock than confront somebody.
As a performance appraiser:
Style - High C's conduct performance evaluations in very much a "matter of fact" style.
Result - Reviews are well-documented, detailed and critical. They will be objective.
Outcome - Appraisee is likely to have the whole story but not sure anything that requires remediation will change.
As a customer service representative:
Style - High C's need to understand everything about everything. Will believe failure to read directions is the root cause of most problems.
Result - The specific issue will be fixed and any apology will have conditions and contingencies.
Outcome - Customer is likely to accept that the company has the whole story but not sure anything will really change.
CD - C with D - Pace. Indirect, Slower-Paced v. Direct, Fast-Paced.
CI - C with I - Pace & Priority. Indirect, Slower-Paced, Guarded, Task-Oriented v. Direct, Fast-Paced, Open, People-Oriented.
CS - C with S - Priority. Guarded, Task-Oriented v. Open, People-Oriented.
CC - C with C - Possible Threat.
In the Personal Space
How others are judged: Forgiving Judgeology™. Try not to be judgmental and can often be very forgiving towards others. Exception - people harming others. Aware of how their actions affect others become disappointed in people who do not possess this same ability. When they see people hurting others constantly and refusing to be considerate, will immediately dislike those people. They want everyone to get along and truly despise discord. When people disturb this peace (e.g. not following their political ideology), will become frustrated.
Cause of anxiety: When you are put on the spot in a situation that you’re unable to prepare for.
Shyness Gauge™ (Out of the 16 patterns. Scale: Lower number is more shy: 8/16
When ill: Tries to convince everyone that they are fine and do not need any help while secretly wishing that one of their loved ones would ignore their pleas and come and take care of them.
At the shopping mall: Hanging with their friends at the food court and discussing the merits of the superhero movie they just saw.
As the gift buyer: Spends months planning personalized gifts for each of their loved ones that celebrate the good times they’ve shared together in the past year. Has everything wrapped up and mailed weeks ahead of time.
What they want as a gift: Time together, Something nostalgic, Hand made gifts, High quality food and treats, Book, Electronic gadgets and tools, Gift certificate for spa or massage.
What sort of holiday: Cookery course for two.
What sort of clothes do they wear - male: Likely to be more conventional in their style of dress and may not be interested in putting too much time into their look beyond what is necessary. Less vain than other types and may conform their appearance to whatever is suitable to their environment. Practitioners are more likely to adopt more traditional styles of clothing based on what they’ve observed around them and they generally do not try to stand out or make a statement.
What sort of clothes do they wear - female: Creates an harmonious space for everyone around them not shy about expressing their loyalty to people they care about. A chic blouse embodies their willingness to take the time to appreciate loved ones.
As a house guest: As Host: My rules, don't touch my stuff. As Guest: I'll overstay and cannot understand the angst it causes.
In a relationship / dating: Relationship needs – Security and Attentiveness. Red Flag if you hear this - "Yeah, I used to bully this girl in high school. But she was weird and smelt bad!" Not negotiable with the partner - Insensitivity. Biggest Strength - Helping others first. Ideal Date Activities - Anything I want to do. Will be seeking - Long term dating. Target area priority - LOVABLE - 20%; ROMANTIC 60%; SEXUAL 20%. Soulmate - Counselor.
Compatibility: Click here.
At the bar: Most likely call their ex.
In the bedroom: Pleaser Bedroomer. To you sex is the perfect opportunity to express your love for someone else. You see it as a chance to please your partner in every way possible and you will try your hardest to do so. You want them to fully understand that sex is important to you and that making them happy means everything. You are willing to experiment (although you have some boundaries) for your partner, if that is what will please them. You enjoy feeling a connection to your loved one and see sex as a prime opportunity for that.
Dalliance or not? Very dutiful and loyal in their relationships. In order for them to betray their relationship, it may require extensive neglect and lack of appreciation by their partner and a smooth operator who can make them feel appreciated the way they desire. They may be susceptible to committing emotional affairs with people who give them attention and make them feel special and valued.
How they deal with clutter: Anti Clutter. Everyone can go do what they want to do and leave you to clean your happy place. Who needs a therapist when you've got shoe bins to organize? Being accurate is of the utmost importance. Practitioners are most likely to use a calculator to leave exactly 20 percent at a restaurant, or adopt the mindset measure twice, cut once.
What sort of kitchen: The Farmhouse Kitchen. You are compassionate, loyal and grounded. You want wood, warmth and wonderful people around you in the kitchen. A big wooden table is essential, as is an old-fashioned range and farmhouse sink. And of course, a fire in the hearth in colder climates.
What religion: 55.37% Rank: 1. Highest percentage of the sixteen. Like others to conform to their values. Likely religion: Conservative or Orthodox Judaism. Evangelical / Protestant.
What they like at a music festival: Pleaser at the festival. Wins a raffle for backstage passes, but gives them to a friend who really loves the band. Probably accidentally meets the band when they take a wrong turn.
What they like as their musical instrument: Bass guitar. Why? The Practitioner values tradition, family and hard work. The bass guitar is an excellent choice for the Practitioner as they build solid foundations in life and like to keep the 'groove' going.
What sort of friend: Supportive, kind-hearted. The friend who always cooks for you and is willing to relax with some Netflix. They are very supportive and warm and you sometimes wonder if they just pretend to like all the same things as you. Is likely not to get along with the Perfectionist. Can feel lonely when they are taken advantage of or their efforts are not noticed for long periods of time.
Weird feature: Strange Collections. Your collection of weird and oddball stuff may not have as much appeal to others as beautiful and unique as you think it is. Easily offended and prone to crying and emotional meltdowns. Rank: 2/10.
In the classroom: Does all the work but never speaks unless spoken to.
Attitude to money and risk
Augmentation: Practitioners, together with Objective Thinkers, Directors and Appraisers have the least willingness to take risks. They enjoy having consistency and structure in their lives and they tend to act only after they have carefully analysed all the details and feel totally prepared. Time is needed to gather their memories and experiences as well as look at the information and think it all over. This does not mean that the Practitioner never takes risks, however. They just need to be sure they have given each option a lot of thought and consideration before acting on the choices they have. Practitioners are so careful and considerate when making decisions they tend to be thoroughly prepared for whatever consequences unfold because of that decision. They are prepared, practical and grounded when it comes to their choices and this means that they are less likely to take risks that turn out badly or backfire on them. In certain cases, the Practitioner can be too risk-averse. For example, as an office worker might hate the job but be unwilling to venture into another career field because of the risk of failure. The Practitioner can also get so stuck in their comfort zone such that they miss out on new opportunities that would bring them joy.
Spending money: Protector. Careful Spender. Do not require much from their financial purchases to be satisfied with life but do like to spend on a few social displays of wealth such as eating out at restaurants with friends, clothing etc. More reserved with money than the Objective Thinker. Thinks of the future, buys the same brands in same stores. Might not take low risk investments or good value holidays. May have bad decisions in a panic. Wants to have an emergency fund of six months salary.
Financial toxicity: Protector - Safe. Pay what's due, when it's due. Simple. Won't splurge on themselves or you. The Practitioner knows better than any other type the value of a dollar and they abhor the squandering or misuse of money. Trustworthy Ranking: Most (with Agent). (Hurt when giving not appreciated, hesitant to trust others).
The following table shows the attitude to risk of each pattern
Base source: Jayne Thompson.
When Nefarious - actions are highly reprehensible or offensive in character
Require instant conformity to their accepted traditions and values. They may seem friendly at first, but underneath their soft-spoken demeanor they are manipulative and passive aggressive. If you rebel against tradition or interrupt their practiced routine, they will shut you out of their life without a second thought or find underhanded ways to get you demoted or punished. They do nice things for people simply for validation and praise and are hateful when they don’t receive the praise they were expecting. When people question them, they will retreat into self-pity and impose guilt trips. They are hard workers, relentless in their sense of duty, even if that duty is to a corrupt power structure or societal construct. Crimes: Being in wrong place at wrong time. Accessory.
Bratty behaviour: Unwarranted passive aggressiveness. While wanting to make others happy, often feel uncomfortable expressing their own needs. May hold onto grudges for ages while feeling bitter about their needs going unmet, despite the fact that they never divulged them. Need to get it that most are not mind readers and that passive aggressiveness is not warranted until concerns have actually been raised.
When guilty: Strong Guilt. Often feel a strong sense of guilt if they are not maintaining harmony in their environment, taking care of loved ones, making others happy and keeping them at ease or the Practitioner not living up to their own standards. Often takes the needs of others on board, wanting to make sure that everyone is taken care of and will work hard on this. If the people around are not happy, will probably blame themselves. Often feel a strong sense of guilt when really should not, making it hard to let go of this. Shame: Can suffer from shame rather frequently, especially if it is being placed on them by the people closest to them. If is told that they are not being considerate enough of the feelings of others, it will definitely cause them to feel ashamed if they feel like they are failing. Like being more supported to get over their feelings of shame. Need to realise that they cannot be perfect and they are doing their best. Important that they remember how much good they have done.
Ingeniously Problematic™ behaviour: Sometimes. Is on display when it is clearly known what the desired outcome is, yet an assertion is made that may not be untruthful, is likely to be ambiguous and the author can use it to advantage. It is designed to give the recipient hope; reality may be 'bugger off' or (mis)leading you into taking up some sort of offer. It often involves blatant hypocrisy.
The Sir Robertson Sole symptoms™ - as the "asshole"!The Weirdo - The meddling R. Sole. Acts cuddly but is secretly an R. Sole. "Nice guys". Ability ranges from gardening to cooking and that's about it. They tend to be the silent stalker in that they know others exact routines and can predict every action they do and may take action accordingly. They do not respect privacy. If they say they love you, you should change your name. They are talking about an undying burning flame of worship and eagerness to please and, although they will never voice what it is they want, you will know. Usually, they will romanticise a scenario and keep trying to achieve it. If you are romantically involved with a Practitioner, you will never know what goes through their mind and you will never be able to react exactly as they want. If they needed to articulate what they wanted, the whole thing is ruined. Sir Robertson recalls the time that he had a friend, for many years, who was a Practitioner; a friend meaning exactly that. By chance, he overheard himself being described as the boyfriend on the phone. Elevantites: you have been warned. These people give you gifts and need help and have been variously described as a freeloader or a leech. Sir Robertson prefers scrounger - the Practitioner, in the mode described above, gets by because they get it by asking for it, rather than by buying it or earning it.
On R.Sole steroids - The self-serving saint. The world thinks well of Practitioners. They go great lengths to ensure that. However, they have a nasty habit of being outed as cowardly bastards. On steroids, Practitioners believe everyone must instantly conform to the traditions and values they have accepted as their own. They may seem friendly at first, but underneath their soft-spoken demeanor they are manipulative and passive aggressive. When the Practitioner is trying to create a peaceful environment, which is pretty much all the time, then realises that someone is attempting to disturb it they can be a bit manipulative in order to prevent this from happening.If you rebel against tradition or interrupt their practiced routine, they will shut you out of their life without a second thought or find underhanded ways to get you demoted or punished. They do nice things for people simply for validation and praise and are hateful when they do not receive the praise they were expecting. When questioned or held to account, they will retreat into self-pity and impose guilt trips. But they are hard workers, relentless in their sense of duty, even if that duty is to a corrupt power structure or an idea that has been created and accepted by the people in a society. Insulting tag: Unreliable. R. Sole nominates Heinrich Himmler and Mitt Romney.
The following table shows the population of each pattern
Source: Australian Psychological Type Review and others.
16 & 2 = 54.2%
7 & 11 = 40.0%
5 & 14 = 51.5%
1 & 9 = 48.0%