Emotional manipulation occurs when a person tries to gain power or control by using sneaky, deceptive tactics
to change the thinking, behaviour or perceptions of their victim.

Ten Elevanto STYLES that a MANIPULATOR may employ to manipulate you.

1. Constant Victim – Finds a way to end up as the victim;
2. One-Upmanship - Uses put downs, snide remarks and criticisms to show superiority;
3. Powerful Dependent – Hides behind the mask of being weak and powerless;
4. Triangulator – Tries to get others on side;
5. Blaster – Blasts anger and blows up suddenly;
6. Projector – See themselves as perfect and its others that have the flaws and take no ownership because they are ever wrong;
7. Deliberate Misinterpreter – Seems like a nice person – but twists and use your words. Spread misinformation and misinterprets you and deliberately presents you in a false or negative way;
8. Flirt – To get their way in life. They want to be admired and to have an audience but others feelings are of no concern.
9. Iron Fist – Uses intimidation and throws weight around, uses you for their ends and to get their way.
10. Combo - Switching from one to the other of the above 9.

Elevanto TIMING METHOD to see if someone is going to manipulate you.

1. Intentionally direct the conversation around and talk about yourself.
2. Closely monitor how long you are allowed to do this and whether the other person is paying attention.
3. If they do not let you talk for around 15 seconds, you have a clue of whether you will be manipulated.
4. The faster you get shut down, the more manipulative the other person is!
5. Are you speaking with someone where you feel like you are being lulled into comfort,
PAY ATTENTION, because that is the moment the manipulative people strike.

Elevanto SOPHISTRY METHOD to see if someone is already manipulating you.

Sophistry is reasoning that seems plausible on a superficial level but is actually unsound, or reasoning that is used to deceive.
1. DANGER: TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE: Are you speaking with someone you instantly liked and bonded with in minutes?
2. DANGER: OVERDONE FLATTERY: Are you speaking with someone who took you seriously, respected your opinion and valued your character and personality? Plus worked out your personal style, how great they thought you were, your manners etc..
3. DANGER: UNUSUAL SENSE OF BOUNDARIES: The way they sit down makes you uncomfortable. Not a casual sit down, it is almost predatory and very close. No boundaries on subject matter; inappropriate for a stranger. And it gets worse each time.
4. DANGER: DEVIL-MAY-CARE VOCAL TONES: Everything else is intense; vocal tone has a couldn't care less attitude about the conversation.
5. DANGER: SHUTTING OUT OTHERS: Downplays / rejects opinions of others nearby.
6. DANGER: PLAYING THE SAINT/VICTIM/WHORE: Acts as a saint beyond reproach whose only goal is to serve others. OR a horribly wronged victim who cannot be held responsible for any of their actions. OR a "playful temptress" who loves having a little fun if you'll look the other way.
7. DANGER: THE EYES: Intense, intimidating, keeps very direct eye contact with compliments and would smile in a very... weird way. Alluring yet scary.

If you tick some of these, you probably have been manipulated to the hilt.

Elevanto U-CHECK YOURSELF METHOD to see if YOU are likely to be the MANIPULATEE.

1. DANGER: The 'disease to please'.
2. DANGER: An addiction to earning the approval and acceptance of others.
3. DANGER: A fear of negative emotion.
4. DANGER: A lack of assertiveness and ability to say no.
5. DANGER: A blurry sense of identity (with soft personal boundaries).
6. DANGER: Low self-reliance.
7. DANGER: Tend to praise or blame external factors. e.g. the teacher, the exam.

Mind Gamerz™ who do the manipulating have been issued with a descriptor of their prime factor.


Majik™ Guide: Prime factor of how each pattern goes as the MANIPULATOR.

Director
One Upmanship
Developer
One Upmanship
Results
One Upmanship
Inspirational
One Upmanship
Persuader
Projector
Appraiser
Constant victim
Promoter
One Upmanship
Counselor
One Upmanship
Specialist
One Upmanship
Investigator
Constant victim
Agent
Deliberate misinterpreter
Achiever
Blaster
Practitioner
Constant victim
Objective Thinker
Triangulator
Perfectionist
One Upmanship
Enhancer
One Upmanship

1. Director - ESTJ

As Manipulator: One-Upmanship. Intent on winning, withholds information so will always know more - constructs own ego. Alternative: Triangulator, Iron fist.

As Manipulatee: Avoids manipulators as dislikes being pushed around. But not so if they are close to the manipulator.

Manipulated by: Temptation.

Prime Factor: One Upmanship.


2. Developer - ENTJ

As Manipulator: One-Upmanship. Intent on winning, withholds information so will always know more - constructs own ego. Alternative: Triangulator, Blaster, Iron fist.

As Manipulatee: Natural skeptic, not easy to manipulate at all as have their up and paying close attention. Only wants fully trusted souls around.

Manipulated by: Being roadblocked.

Prime Factor: One Upmanship.


3. Results - ESTP

As Manipulator: One-Upmanship. Intent on winning, withholds information so will always know more - constructs own ego. Alternative: Blaster, Projector, Flirt.

As Manipulatee: If trusts and admires can often be easily manipulated by them. Not easily swayed by strangers.

Manipulated by: Temptation.

Prime Factor: One Upmanship.


4. Inspirational - ENTP

As Manipulator: One-Upmanship. A Master. Intent on winning, withholds information so will always know more - constructs own ego. May see the other side of a conversation which could easily turn into an argument. Alternative: Projector.

As Manipulatee: Senses any attempt. Turns the tables rather quickly. Tries to manipulate back.

Manipulated by: Being roadblocked.

Prime Factor: One Upmanship.


5. Persuader - ENFJ

As Manipulator: Projector. Do not want to be seen as flawed; only wants to be seen in the light of their choice. Alternative: Nil.

As Manipulatee: Can often sense when someone is attempting to manipulate. But this can fail if it is a close person.

Manipulated by: Withholding love.

Prime Factor: Projector.


6. Appraiser - ESFJ

As Manipulator: The constant victim. The "victim" is the Appraiser who may not realise that this is what they are doing. Uses this strategy when negative feelings are identified. Alternative: Projector, Flirt.

As Manipulatee: Can often sense when people are untrustworthy and are not easy to manipulate. But can sense manipulation if it is a close person.

Manipulated by: Social pressure.

Prime Factor: Constant victim.


7. Promoter - ENFP

As Manipulator: One-Upmanship. Intent on winning, withholds information so will always know more - constructs own ego. Argumentative. Alternative: Projector, Deliberate Misinterpreter, Flirt. Good at convincing but brief e.g. a trick.

As Manipulatee: Gullible and easily manipulated but have a natural skill for manipulation.

Manipulated by: Withholding love.

Prime Factor: One Upmanship.


8. Counselor - ESFP

As Manipulator: The constant victim. Will believe are, or play, the "victim" if it will get them out of a hostile situation. Alternative: Blaster, Projector, Flirt.

As Manipulatee: Blind to the manipulation going on. Takes everything at face value. Not skeptical.

Manipulated by: Social pressure.

Prime Factor: Constant victim.


9. Specialist - ISFP

As Manipulator: Constant victim. Will believe are, or play, the "victim" if it will get them out of a hostile situation. Alternative: Flirt.

As Manipulatee: THE EASIEST!! Easy as they are warm and gentle. Tries to avoid being manipulated but can be trapped by those close.

Manipulated by: Guilt.

Prime Factor: Constant Victim.


10. Investigator - INFJ

As Manipulator: The constant victim. A master manipulator. The "victim" is the Investigator who may not realise that this is what they are doing. Uses when negative feelings are identified. Alternative: Powerful Dependent.

As Manipulatee: Can read you, but not as well if a close person.

Manipulated by: Trust.

Prime Factor: Constant victim.


11. Agent - INFP

As Manipulator: Deliberate misinterpreter. To make rivals look bad equals they look good. Alternative: Nil.

As Manipulatee: Can pretty much see through you and are one step ahead.

Manipulated by: Trust.

Prime Factor: Deliberate misinterpreter.


12. Achiever - ISTP

As Manipulator: Blaster. Scream, hit, whatever to get you off their back. Do not want issues exposed! Alternative: Flirt.

As Manipulatee: Not easy to manipulate as they prefer to be alone. Dislike people who are manipulative or shady.

Manipulated by: Frustration.

Prime Factor: Blaster.


13. Practitioner - ISFJ

As Manipulator: The constant victim. The "victim" is the Practitioner who may not realise that this is what they are doing. Uses this when negative feelings are identified. Grates on others with their 'poor-me' attitude and are allergic to taking responsibility for their actions. The world is always against them, the reason for their unhappiness. They can start by saying, "I don't want you to think I am a complainer". This is self-certification that they are just that. When you offer a solution to their problems they always say, "Yes, but...." One gets the feeling that whatever you do, they will never be satisfied. You should consider screening your calls or purposely avoiding them. As a friend, you may want to help, but their tales of woe may overwhelm you. Alternative: Powerful Dependent, Deliberate Misinterpreter.

As Manipulatee: Easily manipulated. Warm hearts, desire to please make for an easy target for shady people.

Manipulated by: Guilt.

Prime Factor: Constant victim.


14. Objective Thinker - ISTJ

As Manipulator: Triangulator (majority rules). Because if it is established by the majority, it must be right. So they will not feel like an idiot by agreeing. Alternative: Iron fist.

As Manipulatee: Rather difficult to manipulate as are skeptical. If you try, you will not be trusted again by the OT.

Manipulated by: Frustration.

Prime Factor: Triangulator.


15. Perfectionist - INTP

As Manipulator: One-Upmanship. Intent on winning, withholds information so will always know more - constructs own ego. Alternative: Nil.

As Manipulatee: Very difficult and hates manipulation as is skeptical. Avoids hurt by way of trusting and being seen as a 'fool' by keeping a safe distance.

Manipulated by: Reverse psychology.

Prime Factor: One Upmanship.


16. Enhancer - INTJ

As Manipulator: One-Upmanship. Intent on winning, withholds information so will always know more - constructs own ego. Alternative: Triangulator, Iron fist.

As Manipulatee: Will put ten times the energy into trying to manipulate you that you could ever put into manipulating them.

Manipulated by: Reverse psychology.

Prime Factor: One Upmanship.