When someone does not know Disc
it is bog standard easy to fall into simple traps. Until now.

How to make the 
							other person hate you.

Observing people easily causing hate is an Elevanto pastime.

And how they react when they hate the other person.

And how some pairs may be compatible.

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Here are all sixteen patterns - all making simple misteaks.

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Conducted and composed by Elizabeth Hunter™ - Last Update June 1, 2020


1. Can it be the Director - ESTJ?

The Director is the Border Collie

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just shoot down all the Director's ideas. And you will be hated.

The Director likes to bring you into the world that they have built by asking you to go to places they like and try things that they enjoy. The Director will quickly grow frustrated if you continuously refuse to let them show you things they love.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: "You are doing it all wrong."

Patterns that you do not like and why:

11 - The Agent. Their impracticality, lack of concern with the real world (in La La Land), deep concern for people’s feelings and even the feelings of inanimate objects do nothing but tick the Director off.

Why the Director will be hated by others:

The Director shoots down all the other person's ideas, particularly when done with disdain.

Why the Director will not be liked by others:

Reason 2 of 6 options. Our society does not value introversion and it does not value honesty. Fake has become the new normal and many spend their whole lives pretending to be someone they are not. Modern society has become so fake that people get offended by the truth and innocent words or behaviour is taken as an insult. So it makes sense why people do not like those who are not afraid to speak the plain truth. Those who call things by their proper names. Those who refuse to participate in this never-ending game of hypocrisy.

As a blunt person, they will not waste time on meaningless chitchat, vain pleasantries or fake compliments. They will only say the things you truly mean. They will want to get to the point without following the unwritten politically correct social protocol and giving pointless answers to pointless questions such as, "How are you?" or "The weather is nice today, isn’t it?"

This is because an outspoken person knows the real value of words. They know when someone means what they say and when it is just fake nicety. So when they are dealing with a hypocrite, they prefer to skip the pseudo-polite introduction and get to the point. Why? Because they know that in reality, the other person could not care less how they are.

People may not like them because of their raw honesty. Others may not appreciate them telling uncomfortable things or just the fact that they refuse to play the nicety game we all unwillingly participate in.

No matter what, they should just keep speaking the truth. It is much more valuable than social approval. The world is full of fake people and desperately needs more honest and blunt personalities.

Reason 3 of 6 options. Strong and Independent Personality

Strong personalities are often intimidating. So if they wonder, ‘Why don’t people like me?’ the answer could be that they feel intimidated by their dynamic personality.

If one is a mentally tough person, they believe that when hardships knock at the door, it is time to act rather than to give in to complaining or blaming others. This is because instead of dwelling on failure, they prefer to focus on working out a solution.

Strong personalities always take full responsibility and expect others to do the same. When others try to avoid it with excuses, they may become pretty harsh with these people. For this reason, they may come off as insensitive because they do not tolerate drama and whinging.

Strong people also tend to hide their emotions as they often regard them as a weakness. They may be quite guarded and avoid opening up to others easily. For example, they will not share personal issues with co-workers or participate in workplace cliques and corporate gossips. Thus, people may confuse them for being emotionally unavailable and indifferent.

Being strong also equals being independent, which includes knowing who one is and feeling no need to prove anything to others. Strong personalities do not try to earn other people’s validation and acceptance. While this attitude is powerful, it can be easily misunderstood and push people away.

E. Hunter™, an Enhancer, may be an attraction:

The Director may take a while to get used to and comfortable with the Enhancer’s unconventionality, but the relationship drastically improves once they do. "I may sometimes pick the Director as a friend on a limited and qualified basis only".

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2. Can it be the Developer - ENTJ?

The Developer is the German Shepherd

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just be a bully towards the Developer. And you will be hated.

The Developer is the bully and does not like being usurped in this role. They are unlikely to waste time getting into a conflict if they could just ignore you, but they will immediately stop ignoring you if they think you are a bully to those that are weak. This is hypocritical, part of their modus operandi. This does not stem from a desire to have control over people themselves, but more that if there is one thing this type does not like it is people being unkind to others they view as being unable to handle it. Unless they are doing it themselves.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: "Okay. Stop speaking. You're done."

Patterns that you do not like and why:

It is hard to find a designated enemy for the Developer as, to some extent, everyone is an enemy to them. People are pawns or obstacles in extreme cases. As far as the most competent obstacle, or most annoying, the 4 - Inspirational can really get in their way with imaginative tactics, slippery arguments and a lack of real ambition.

Why the Developer will be hated by others:

The Developer carries on as the bully (usual mode).

Why the Developer will not be liked by others:

Reason 2 of 6 options. Our society does not value introversion and it does not value honesty. Fake has become the new normal and many spend their whole lives pretending to be someone they are not. Modern society has become so fake that people get offended by the truth and innocent words or behaviour is taken as an insult. So it makes sense why people do not like those who are not afraid to speak the plain truth. Those who call things by their proper names. Those who refuse to participate in this never-ending game of hypocrisy.

As a blunt person, they will not waste time on meaningless chitchat, vain pleasantries or fake compliments. They will only say the things you truly mean. They will want to get to the point without following the unwritten politically correct social protocol and giving pointless answers to pointless questions such as, "How are you?" or "The weather is nice today, isn’t it?"

This is because an outspoken person knows the real value of words. They know when someone means what they say and when it is just fake nicety. So when they are dealing with a hypocrite, they prefer to skip the pseudo-polite introduction and get to the point. Why? Because they know that in reality, the other person could not care less how they are.

People may not like them because of their raw honesty. Others may not appreciate them telling uncomfortable things or just the fact that they refuse to play the nicety game we all unwillingly participate in.

No matter what, they should just keep speaking the truth. It is much more valuable than social approval. The world is full of fake people and desperately needs more honest and blunt personalities.

E. Hunter™, an Enhancer, may be an attraction:

The Developer is drawn to the Enhancer's extreme competence and reliability. They are also impressed by their visionary outlook and hence we get along very well at work and in matters of setting long-term strategy. Both are fans of self-improvement, which further lubricates the relationship. This relationship is only possible if both are intellectually secure. Otherwise, there will be fireworks. "These are the bullies and I carefully pick which ones I will tolerate but that is on a strictly as needs basis only".

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3. Can it be the Results - ESTP?

The Results is the Jack Russell Terrier

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just make the Results feel trapped. And you will be hated.

The Results like to feel like masters of their own destiny and they will begin to resent you rather quickly if you try to take that away from them. It is doubly interesting then that this pattern often attracts smothering personality types, only to have to free themselves when they realize what has happened.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: "Yes. I'm out of here."

Patterns that you do not like and why:

The Results tick other people off, but pretty much get along with everyone. But anyone who restricts their freedom had better watch out.

Why the Results will be hated by others:

The Results makes others feel trapped.

Why the Results will not be liked by others:

Reason 2 of 6 options. Our society does not value introversion and it does not value honesty. Fake has become the new normal and many spend their whole lives pretending to be someone they are not. Modern society has become so fake that people get offended by the truth and innocent words or behaviour is taken as an insult. So it makes sense why people do not like those who are not afraid to speak the plain truth. Those who call things by their proper names. Those who refuse to participate in this never-ending game of hypocrisy.

As a blunt person, they will not waste time on meaningless chitchat, vain pleasantries or fake compliments. They will only say the things you truly mean. They will want to get to the point without following the unwritten politically correct social protocol and giving pointless answers to pointless questions such as, "How are you?" or "The weather is nice today, isn’t it?"

This is because an outspoken person knows the real value of words. They know when someone means what they say and when it is just fake nicety. So when they are dealing with a hypocrite, they prefer to skip the pseudo-polite introduction and get to the point. Why? Because they know that in reality, the other person could not care less how they are.

People may not like them because of their raw honesty. Others may not appreciate them telling uncomfortable things or just the fact that they refuse to play the nicety game we all unwillingly participate in.

No matter what, they should just keep speaking the truth. It is much more valuable than social approval. The world is full of fake people and desperately needs more honest and blunt personalities.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction:

The Results is not particularly drawn to the Enhancer. "I do not like the Results' empty promises".

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4. Can it be the Inspirational - ENTP?

The Inspirational is the Bull Terrier

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just belittle the Inspirational. And you will be hated.

The Inspirational hates being talked down to more than any other pattern. This is because while they typically have high self-esteem, it is usually mixed with a lot of self-doubt. This means that they will react to being made to feel small by reacting based off not only their wounded pride, but also their reinforced feelings of inadequacy.
They are the joke of Disc - everything about them is contradictory. Introverted extravert. Funniest outwardly and the most terrifying inwardly. They love to stand up for their viewpoints yet will sometimes defend a side they do no even agree with in a debate. They are insane yet, from their logical arguments, you would think they were the most sane. They are energetic about any subject that interests them, only to drop the project like a hot potato the moment they get bored with it which does not take long.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: Nods and smiles until the other person goes away, internally not approving of anything they are saying.

Patterns that you do not like and why:

14 - OT and 13 - Practitioner who will not argue. The OT is not a quick thinker and are very slow to understand and appreciate the Inspirational’s outside the box thinking. They always insist on doing things the right way, or being thorough, which the lightning fast Inspirational really hates. The Practitioner will not argue and merely stand on their quirky, personal principles, incapable of compartmentalizing for the greater good also really chafes on the Inspirational.

Why the Inspirational will be hated by others:

The Inspirational belittles others.

Why the Inspirational will not be liked by others:

Reason 2 of 6 options. Our society does not value introversion and it does not value honesty. Fake has become the new normal and many spend their whole lives pretending to be someone they are not. Modern society has become so fake that people get offended by the truth and innocent words or behaviour is taken as an insult. So it makes sense why people do not like those who are not afraid to speak the plain truth. Those who call things by their proper names. Those who refuse to participate in this never-ending game of hypocrisy.

As a blunt person, they will not waste time on meaningless chitchat, vain pleasantries or fake compliments. They will only say the things you truly mean. They will want to get to the point without following the unwritten politically correct social protocol and giving pointless answers to pointless questions such as, "How are you?" or "The weather is nice today, isn’t it?"

This is because an outspoken person knows the real value of words. They know when someone means what they say and when it is just fake nicety. So when they are dealing with a hypocrite, they prefer to skip the pseudo-polite introduction and get to the point. Why? Because they know that in reality, the other person could not care less how they are.

People may not like them because of their raw honesty. Others may not appreciate them telling uncomfortable things or just the fact that they refuse to play the nicety game we all unwillingly participate in.

No matter what, they should just keep speaking the truth. It is much more valuable than social approval. The world is full of fake people and desperately needs more honest and blunt personalities.

Reason 4 of 6 options. Non conformist.

It is natural for human beings to like and trust what is familiar to them. It is no secret that we find it easier to relate to people who are similar to us. For this reason, those who live unconventional lifestyles, have unusual looks or, most importantly, think in a different way often get rejected.

People do not like those who are different because at the subconscious level of our minds, we associate familiar with safe. That is why normal (aka ordinary) tends to be perceived as good. So if one feels that people do not like them, their unconventional way of thinking could be to blame. Maybe some of their ideas or views are too uncommon and scare people away because they cannot understand or relate to them.

But there is also another aspect of being a non-conformist. It could be that one refuses to conform to other people’s expectations of them. The non-conformist knows what they want and do not let anyone take advantage of them. It is the opposite of being a people-pleaser. Thus, if people do not like the non-conformist, it could be because they are not convenient for the other person. And that is a good thing.

It is a powerful quality in today’s conformist world and the non-conformist should cherish it. They are not afraid to stand out of the crowd; not with behaviour such as dying your hair blue. It is about having the courage to hold your ground and to have an unpopular opinion.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction:

The Inspirational is drawn to the Enhancer's intelligence and practicality. Brainstorming is always fun between these types, but the Enhancer will always try and get something useful from the interaction to solve a problem. The Inspirational enjoys being part of that process with the Enhancer, the process of creating a new idea by just thinking and talking. "I only tolerate the Inspirational and have never had, nor wanted, one as a friend".

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5. Can it be the Persuader - ENFJ?

The Persuader is the Boxer

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just be a fake in the eyes of the Persuader. And you will be hated.

The Persuader can sense when someone is fake almost immediately and they will be even angrier with you if it takes them even a little while to recognise it. In addition, once they find someone who is fake they will use their natural charm to make sure that everyone else knows your true nature, in order to make sure that you cannot make anyone else feel the way that they felt.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: Searches in vain for the other person's good qualities.

Patterns that you do not like and why:

The Persuader tends to get along with everybody, but the 12 - Achiever's devil may care attitude may tend to tick them off. They dislike people who seem to shirk responsibility. The Persuader dislikes those who lack responsibility to greater causes. The 16 - Enhancer, is particularly not popular with the Persuader due to their lack of interest in 'greater causes'.

Why the Persuader will be hated by others:

The Persuader interferes.

Why the Persuader will not be liked by others:

Reason 2 of 6 options. Our society does not value introversion and it does not value honesty. Fake has become the new normal and many spend their whole lives pretending to be someone they are not. Modern society has become so fake that people get offended by the truth and innocent words or behaviour is taken as an insult. So it makes sense why people do not like those who are not afraid to speak the plain truth. Those who call things by their proper names. Those who refuse to participate in this never-ending game of hypocrisy.

As a blunt person, they will not waste time on meaningless chitchat, vain pleasantries or fake compliments. They will only say the things you truly mean. They will want to get to the point without following the unwritten politically correct social protocol and giving pointless answers to pointless questions such as, "How are you?" or "The weather is nice today, isn’t it?"

This is because an outspoken person knows the real value of words. They know when someone means what they say and when it is just fake nicety. So when they are dealing with a hypocrite, they prefer to skip the pseudo-polite introduction and get to the point. Why? Because they know that in reality, the other person could not care less how they are.

People may not like them because of their raw honesty. Others may not appreciate them telling uncomfortable things or just the fact that they refuse to play the nicety game we all unwillingly participate in.

No matter what, they should just keep speaking the truth. It is much more valuable than social approval. The world is full of fake people and desperately needs more honest and blunt personalities.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction:

The Persuader is drawn to the Enhancer's maturity and emotional easiness, aka lack of drama. The Persuader gets extremely emotionally drained by unhappy people around them, but being with the Enhancer allows them to relax because of the Enhancer's legendary directness, bluntness and honesty. "I cannot wear the Persuaders desire to interfere in my own affairs. They can bugger off".

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6. Can it be the Appraiser - ESFJ

The Appraiser is the Great Dane

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just micromanage the Appraiser. And you will be hated.

The Appraiser is generally relaxed, so the fastest way to make them hate you is to take over their schedule to pack it full. This does not mean they do not enjoy regular activities, just that if you try to make them break up their calendar into half hour blocks they will begin to resent you.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: "Um, the think you said is really not right, sorry."

Patterns that you do not like and why:

16 - The Enhancer. To the Appraiser, the Enhancer seems is cold, heartless and too dark; everything that the people and comfort loving Appraiser dislikes. It does not help that, despite their shared Judging, the Enhancer does not respect other people’s rules much. Plus, their death stare can really kill a mood in a kind of awesome way.

Why the Appraiser will be hated by others:

The Appraiser micromanages others.

Why the Appraiser will not be liked by others:

Reason 5 of 6 options. Integrity.

Sadly, integrity, strong ethics and conscience seem to be the things of the past. In a society built on greed, selfishness and hypocrisy being a person with a sound moral code can be a real struggle.

When one refuses to tolerate certain behaviour or to take advantage of others, the peron with integrity chooses a difficult path. It is a disappointing fact that it is much harder for a person with strong ethics to become successful and navigate life in today’s world. They will not act according to what is convenient but will always follow their set of principles, even if it means making unfavourable decisions.

For one with high integrity, it can also mean that they have high expectations of others. They will treat others with honesty and kindness and will expect them to do the same. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. When others lie or try to exploit for their purposes, this will not be tolerated. This attitude may form a reputation of a person who is impossible to work with or deal with.

And this could be the reason why people do not like a person of integrity. Remember, no one likes inconvenient people. But at the same time, they are much more difficult to be take advantage of.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction:

The Appraiser is not particularly drawn to the Enhancer. "I cannot see much common ground".

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7. Can it be the Promoter - ENFP?

The Promoter is the Golden Retriever

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just take the Promoter for granted. And you will be hated.

The Promoter is a natural people pleaser, but they have to know that all their hard work has some affect on you. You do not have to throw them a parade, they just want you to occasionally thank them for everything they do, and let them know that it is important to you. This can be a challenge due to their constant unreliability.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: Makes subtle snide comment then makes totally unsubtle rude comment when the other person moves away.

Patterns that you do not like and why:

14 - The OT is the Promoter's natural enemy, a representative of the rules and inconvenient facts, rigidity, unimaginativeness and stifled creativity that is every Promoter’s monster in the closet. The OT appears to be way too boring for the Promoter.

Why the Promoter will be hated by others:

The Promoter takes others for granted.

Why the Promoter will not be liked by others:

Reason 4 of 6 options. Non conformist.

It is natural for human beings to like and trust what is familiar to them. It is no secret that we find it easier to relate to people who are similar to us. For this reason, those who live unconventional lifestyles, have unusual looks or, most importantly, think in a different way often get rejected.

People do not like those who are different because at the subconscious level of our minds, we associate familiar with safe. That is why normal (aka ordinary) tends to be perceived as good. So if one feels that people do not like them, their unconventional way of thinking could be to blame. Maybe some of their ideas or views are too uncommon and scare people away because they cannot understand or relate to them.

But there is also another aspect of being a non-conformist. It could be that one refuses to conform to other people’s expectations of them. The non-conformist knows what they want and do not let anyone take advantage of them. It is the opposite of being a people-pleaser. Thus, if people do not like the non-conformist, it could be because they are not convenient for the other person. And that is a good thing.

It is a powerful quality in today’s conformist world and the non-conformist should cherish it. They are not afraid to stand out of the crowd; not with behaviour such as dying your hair blue. It is about having the courage to hold your ground and to have an unpopular opinion.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction:

The Promoter is drawn to the enhancer due to the latter’s authentic confidence, cool logic, their complex plans that always seem to succeed and their soft and mushy emotional center.
The Promoter seems to be able to instinctively sense the soft centre with their Extraverted Intuition and their Introverted Feeling while other patterns are more intimidated by the Enhancer's exterior. The Promoter loves interesting people and mature Enhancer's usually one-of-a-kind individuals. "I cannot wear the Promoter as they cannot be relied upon to finish anything".

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8. Can it be the Counselor - ESFP

The Counselor is the Poodle

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just be codependent on the Counselor. And you will be hated.

There is no quicker way to make a Counselor hate you than to immediately force yourself to be the most important person in their life. Cutting them off from their abilities to feel independent and have friends outside of each other will make them attempt to avoid you as soon and as much as possible.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: "I've got to go. I have plans with that girl. Didn't I tell you that earlier? Oops. Bye!"

Patterns that you do not like and why:

14 - OT. The Counselor is happiest when they are having fun, letting go and getting others to let go. A controlling and in control OT is an abominable stick in the mud to them.

Why the Counselor will be hated by others:

The Counselor is co-dependent on others.

Why the Counselor will not be liked by others:

Reason 4 of 6 options. Non conformist.

It is natural for human beings to like and trust what is familiar to them. It is no secret that we find it easier to relate to people who are similar to us. For this reason, those who live unconventional lifestyles, have unusual looks or, most importantly, think in a different way often get rejected.

People do not like those who are different because at the subconscious level of our minds, we associate familiar with safe. That is why normal (aka ordinary) tends to be perceived as good. So if one feels that people do not like them, their unconventional way of thinking could be to blame. Maybe some of their ideas or views are too uncommon and scare people away because they cannot understand or relate to them.

But there is also another aspect of being a non-conformist. It could be that one refuses to conform to other people’s expectations of them. The non-conformist knows what they want and do not let anyone take advantage of them. It is the opposite of being a people-pleaser. Thus, if people do not like the non-conformist, it could be because they are not convenient for the other person. And that is a good thing.

It is a powerful quality in today’s conformist world and the non-conformist should cherish it. They are not afraid to stand out of the crowd; not with behaviour such as dying your hair blue. It is about having the courage to hold your ground and to have an unpopular opinion.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction:

The Counselor is not particularly drawn to the Enhancer. "I do not like being dragged into the spotlight at all and that is the Counselor's modus operandi".

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9. Can it be the Specialist - ISFP

The Specialist is the Saint Bernard

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just be dismissive of the Specialist. And you will be hated.

The Specialist is naturally excited about the things and people they love, though it is often hard for them to express it the way they want it. In other words, the fastest way to get them to hate you is to wait until they finally work up the courage to explain how they feel about something or someone and then tell them you think that thing or person is lame.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: Silence.

Patterns that you do not like and why:

1 - The Director. The complete practicality and goal-oriented, organized mindset of the Director, with room for little else, is awful to the Specialist. The Developer is another candidate for the most hated, but a small part of the Developer would be able to appreciate the Specialists art on a very deep level, so all would probably be forgiven.

Why the Specialist will be hated by others:

The Specialist is dismissive of others.

Why the Specialist will not be liked by others:

Reason 1 of 6 options. It is not the case that introverts are not likable. However, it is true that people tend to underestimate the good qualities of introverts.

One issue from the school years is that the ‘show and tell’ approach is favoured not just in schools but in our society in general. Introverts rarely find themselves in the spotlight because they do not talk for the sake of talking. They only speak when they have something meaningful to say. Neither do they open up to people easily. One will never find an introvert sharing the story of their life to someone they have just met.

Importantly, introverts can only handle a limited amount of social contact. Too much interaction leads to emotional exhaustion also known as the ‘Introvert Hangover’. They will withdraw and may not pick up your calls or accept your invitations for some time.

These introvert behaviours are often misunderstood and lead to numerous misconceptions about these patterns. Introverts are mistaken for being conceited, rude or just plain antisocial. For this reason, many people do not like introverts and favor more open and easygoing folks.

However, if people do not like someone because of their introversion, the introvert should never forget that there is nothing wrong with them. They should not strive to become someone they are not – terrible things happen when an introvert tries to make themselves into a social butterfly. Forced communication will only bring unhappiness and will overwhelm.

An introvert needs to be sure that the right people will like and appreciate them. They will want to get to know others on a deep level. And this is much more powerful than being liked by everyone.

Reason 4 of 6 options. Non conformist.

It is natural for human beings to like and trust what is familiar to them. It is no secret that we find it easier to relate to people who are similar to us. For this reason, those who live unconventional lifestyles, have unusual looks or, most importantly, think in a different way often get rejected.

People do not like those who are different because at the subconscious level of our minds, we associate familiar with safe. That is why normal (aka ordinary) tends to be perceived as good. So if one feels that people do not like them, their unconventional way of thinking could be to blame. Maybe some of their ideas or views are too uncommon and scare people away because they cannot understand or relate to them.

But there is also another aspect of being a non-conformist. It could be that one refuses to conform to other people’s expectations of them. The non-conformist knows what they want and do not let anyone take advantage of them. It is the opposite of being a people-pleaser. Thus, if people do not like the non-conformist, it could be because they are not convenient for the other person. And that is a good thing.

It is a powerful quality in today’s conformist world and the non-conformist should cherish it. They are not afraid to stand out of the crowd; not with behaviour such as dying your hair blue. It is about having the courage to hold your ground and to have an unpopular opinion.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction:

The Specialist is not particularly drawn to the Enhancer. "I do not like their arty-farty ways".

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10. Can it be the Investigator - INFJ?

The Investigator is the Greyhound

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just make the Investigator feel like they can never be good enough. And you will be hated.

This is one of the main stress factors that The Investigator puts put on themselves, so they do not need it from the outside world. This is particularly true if they look up to you, as this naturally sensitive type will take it very hard.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: Says nothing in the moment but discusses the other person with a trusted friend later.

Patterns that you do not like and why:

In a similar fashion to the 16 - Enhancer, the Investigator does not really have any natural enemies. They tend to love humanity, understand humanity and help humanity. Sometimes, however, patterns like the 2 - Developer, whose proficiency in forwarding their own interests at the expense of others, can get on their nerves.

Why the Investigator will be hated by others:

The Investigator makes others feel like they can never be good enough.

Why the Investigator will not be liked by others:

Reason 1 of 6 options. It is not the case that introverts are not likable. However, it is true that people tend to underestimate the good qualities of introverts.

One issue from the school years is that the ‘show and tell’ approach is favoured not just in schools but in our society in general. Introverts rarely find themselves in the spotlight because they do not talk for the sake of talking. They only speak when they have something meaningful to say. Neither do they open up to people easily. One will never find an introvert sharing the story of their life to someone they have just met.

Importantly, introverts can only handle a limited amount of social contact. Too much interaction leads to emotional exhaustion also known as the ‘Introvert Hangover’. They will withdraw and may not pick up your calls or accept your invitations for some time.

These introvert behaviours are often misunderstood and lead to numerous misconceptions about these patterns. Introverts are mistaken for being conceited, rude or just plain antisocial. For this reason, many people do not like introverts and favor more open and easygoing folks.

However, if people do not like someone because of their introversion, the introvert should never forget that there is nothing wrong with them. They should not strive to become someone they are not – terrible things happen when an introvert tries to make themselves into a social butterfly. Forced communication will only bring unhappiness and will overwhelm.

An introvert needs to be sure that the right people will like and appreciate them. They will want to get to know others on a deep level. And this is much more powerful than being liked by everyone.

Reason 3 of 6 options. Strong and Independent Personality

Strong personalities are often intimidating. So if they wonder, ‘Why don’t people like me?’ the answer could be that they feel intimidated by their dynamic personality.

If one is a mentally tough person, they believe that when hardships knock at the door, it is time to act rather than to give in to complaining or blaming others. This is because instead of dwelling on failure, they prefer to focus on working out a solution.

Strong personalities always take full responsibility and expect others to do the same. When others try to avoid it with excuses, they may become pretty harsh with these people. For this reason, they may come off as insensitive because they do not tolerate drama and whinging.

Strong people also tend to hide their emotions as they often regard them as a weakness. They may be quite guarded and avoid opening up to others easily. For example, they will not share personal issues with co-workers or participate in workplace cliques and corporate gossips. Thus, people may confuse them for being emotionally unavailable and indifferent.

Being strong also equals being independent, which includes knowing who one is and feeling no need to prove anything to others. Strong personalities do not try to earn other people’s validation and acceptance. While this attitude is powerful, it can be easily misunderstood and push people away.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction:

The Investigator is drawn to the Enhancer because they sense depth comparable to themselves and a fierce intelligence that they enjoy exploring. It is very rare for both to find someone else like themselves (Introverted Intuition) but still different in fun ways. The Investigator is logical so both are drawn to the intense intellectual and philosophical conversations. The Investigator is whom the Enhancer feels most understood by and is hence most likely to open up to. This last point goes both ways. "I can door-slam, but the Investigator is the market leader so I know that at the start".

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11. Can it be the Agent - INFP?

The Agent is the Tibetan Terrier

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just a stick-in-the-mud in the Agent's eyes. And you will be hated.

This is doubly true if you attempt to inflict your stubborn judgments onto other people. The Agent is a born bohemian and does not take kindly to people trying to ruin their latest spontaneous idea. This does not mean they will not listen to sense, only that they will know and dislike it if you try to get them to not do something just because it does not mesh with your ideas. There will always be issues.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: "Please leave."

Patterns that you do not like and why:

1 - Director, absolutely. The Agent loves stories, fantasies, poems, all the impractical beauties of the world. The Director is a complete mood killer, plus their lack of empathy also ticks the Agent off.

Why the Agent will be hated by others:

The Agent is a stick-in-the-mud.

Why the Agent will not be liked by others:

Reason 1 of 6 options. It is not the case that introverts are not likable. However, it is true that people tend to underestimate the good qualities of introverts.

One issue from the school years is that the ‘show and tell’ approach is favoured not just in schools but in our society in general. Introverts rarely find themselves in the spotlight because they do not talk for the sake of talking. They only speak when they have something meaningful to say. Neither do they open up to people easily. One will never find an introvert sharing the story of their life to someone they have just met.

Importantly, introverts can only handle a limited amount of social contact. Too much interaction leads to emotional exhaustion also known as the ‘Introvert Hangover’. They will withdraw and may not pick up your calls or accept your invitations for some time.

These introvert behaviours are often misunderstood and lead to numerous misconceptions about these patterns. Introverts are mistaken for being conceited, rude or just plain antisocial. For this reason, many people do not like introverts and favor more open and easygoing folks.

However, if people do not like someone because of their introversion, the introvert should never forget that there is nothing wrong with them. They should not strive to become someone they are not – terrible things happen when an introvert tries to make themselves into a social butterfly. Forced communication will only bring unhappiness and will overwhelm.

An introvert needs to be sure that the right people will like and appreciate them. They will want to get to know others on a deep level. And this is much more powerful than being liked by everyone.

Reason 4 of 6 options. Non conformist.

It is natural for human beings to like and trust what is familiar to them. It is no secret that we find it easier to relate to people who are similar to us. For this reason, those who live unconventional lifestyles, have unusual looks or, most importantly, think in a different way often get rejected.

People do not like those who are different because at the subconscious level of our minds, we associate familiar with safe. That is why normal (aka ordinary) tends to be perceived as good. So if one feels that people do not like them, their unconventional way of thinking could be to blame. Maybe some of their ideas or views are too uncommon and scare people away because they cannot understand or relate to them.

But there is also another aspect of being a non-conformist. It could be that one refuses to conform to other people’s expectations of them. The non-conformist knows what they want and do not let anyone take advantage of them. It is the opposite of being a people-pleaser. Thus, if people do not like the non-conformist, it could be because they are not convenient for the other person. And that is a good thing.

It is a powerful quality in today’s conformist world and the non-conformist should cherish it. They are not afraid to stand out of the crowd; not with behaviour such as dying your hair blue. It is about having the courage to hold your ground and to have an unpopular opinion.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction:

The Agent is drawn to the Enhancer and, like the Promoter, enjoys interesting people and they can go more in-depth in matters of emotion, morality, spirituality etc. than any other type. They like playing with and seeing how the Enhancer's mind works by talking about all sorts of fascinating things that are very different for the Enhancer. (Who else may an Enhancer talk to about stuff like this?) They are drawn by the depth, intelligence and childlike naivety underneath it all. The Agent may see a very unique side of the Enhancer where our Extraverted Thinking takes the backseat and Introverted Feeling comes into play. "I cannot stand the Agent as they are in La La Land and are whinging Space Cadets".

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12. Can it be the Achiever - ISTP?

The Achiever is the Bassett Hound

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just force the Achieret to be "normal". And you will be hated.

The Achiever likes to live their life the way they wish, even if that is contrary to what society wants for them. The fastest way to make them hate you is to present the world to them as strictly black and white, even if you say they are on the “good side”.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: Provides layers and layers of ironic insults and sees how obvious they can get without the other person noticing.

Patterns that you do not like and why:

5 - The Persuader and 14 - OT. They do not like, and are annoyed by, the idealism and organisation / interfering nature of the Persuader. They think that the OT is almost good but their insistence on sticking to the beaten path is a fatal flaw.

Why the Achiever will be hated by others:

The Achiever forces others to be “normal”.

Why the Appraiser will not be liked by others:

Reason 1 of 6 options. It is not the case that introverts are not likable. However, it is true that people tend to underestimate the good qualities of introverts.

One issue from the school years is that the ‘show and tell’ approach is favoured not just in schools but in our society in general. Introverts rarely find themselves in the spotlight because they do not talk for the sake of talking. They only speak when they have something meaningful to say. Neither do they open up to people easily. One will never find an introvert sharing the story of their life to someone they have just met.

Importantly, introverts can only handle a limited amount of social contact. Too much interaction leads to emotional exhaustion also known as the ‘Introvert Hangover’. They will withdraw and may not pick up your calls or accept your invitations for some time.

These introvert behaviours are often misunderstood and lead to numerous misconceptions about these patterns. Introverts are mistaken for being conceited, rude or just plain antisocial. For this reason, many people do not like introverts and favor more open and easygoing folks.

However, if people do not like someone because of their introversion, the introvert should never forget that there is nothing wrong with them. They should not strive to become someone they are not – terrible things happen when an introvert tries to make themselves into a social butterfly. Forced communication will only bring unhappiness and will overwhelm.

An introvert needs to be sure that the right people will like and appreciate them. They will want to get to know others on a deep level. And this is much more powerful than being liked by everyone.

Reason 3 of 6 options. Strong and Independent Personality

Strong personalities are often intimidating. So if they wonder, ‘Why don’t people like me?’ the answer could be that they feel intimidated by their dynamic personality.

If one is a mentally tough person, they believe that when hardships knock at the door, it is time to act rather than to give in to complaining or blaming others. This is because instead of dwelling on failure, they prefer to focus on working out a solution.

Strong personalities always take full responsibility and expect others to do the same. When others try to avoid it with excuses, they may become pretty harsh with these people. For this reason, they may come off as insensitive because they do not tolerate drama and whinging.

Strong people also tend to hide their emotions as they often regard them as a weakness. They may be quite guarded and avoid opening up to others easily. For example, they will not share personal issues with co-workers or participate in workplace cliques and corporate gossips. Thus, people may confuse them for being emotionally unavailable and indifferent.

Being strong also equals being independent, which includes knowing who one is and feeling no need to prove anything to others. Strong personalities do not try to earn other people’s validation and acceptance. While this attitude is powerful, it can be easily misunderstood and push people away.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction:

The Achiever is not particularly drawn to the Enhancer. "I like their practical nous but that is about all".

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13. Can it be the Practitioner - ISFJ?

The Practitioner is the Alaskan Malamute

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just be flaky to the Practitioner. And you will be hated.

One of the most important qualities to a Practitioner is that they can rely on someone. This is especially because they often do not feel that they can rely on themselves and their own judgment and look to others to help guide them. Proving yourself to be unreliable will see you excommunicated from this patterns inner circle.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: Sighs a lot.

Patterns that you do not like and why:

4 - The Inspirational and the 2 - Developer. This is because they will burn down anything to see the flames and they will step on anyone to reach the top. And they are both excellent at that.

Why the Practitioner will be hated by others:

The Practitioner is flaky.

Why the Practitioner will not be liked by others:

Reason 1 of 6 options. It is not the case that introverts are not likable. However, it is true that people tend to underestimate the good qualities of introverts.

One issue from the school years is that the ‘show and tell’ approach is favoured not just in schools but in our society in general. Introverts rarely find themselves in the spotlight because they do not talk for the sake of talking. They only speak when they have something meaningful to say. Neither do they open up to people easily. One will never find an introvert sharing the story of their life to someone they have just met.

Importantly, introverts can only handle a limited amount of social contact. Too much interaction leads to emotional exhaustion also known as the ‘Introvert Hangover’. They will withdraw and may not pick up your calls or accept your invitations for some time.

These introvert behaviours are often misunderstood and lead to numerous misconceptions about these patterns. Introverts are mistaken for being conceited, rude or just plain antisocial. For this reason, many people do not like introverts and favor more open and easygoing folks.

However, if people do not like someone because of their introversion, the introvert should never forget that there is nothing wrong with them. They should not strive to become someone they are not – terrible things happen when an introvert tries to make themselves into a social butterfly. Forced communication will only bring unhappiness and will overwhelm.

An introvert needs to be sure that the right people will like and appreciate them. They will want to get to know others on a deep level. And this is much more powerful than being liked by everyone.

Reason 5 of 6 options. Integrity.

Sadly, integrity, strong ethics and conscience seem to be the things of the past. In a society built on greed, selfishness and hypocrisy being a person with a sound moral code can be a real struggle.

When one refuses to tolerate certain behaviour or to take advantage of others, the peron with integrity chooses a difficult path. It is a disappointing fact that it is much harder for a person with strong ethics to become successful and navigate life in today’s world. They will not act according to what is convenient but will always follow their set of principles, even if it means making unfavourable decisions.

For one with high integrity, it can also mean that they have high expectations of others. They will treat others with honesty and kindness and will expect them to do the same. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. When others lie or try to exploit for their purposes, this will not be tolerated. This attitude may form a reputation of a person who is impossible to work with or deal with.

And this could be the reason why people do not like a person of integrity. Remember, no one likes inconvenient people. But at the same time, they are much more difficult to be take advantage of.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction:

The Practitioner is not particularly drawn to the Enhancer. "I get sick of the Practitioner's passive-aggressive nature that sits behind a kind exterior. They do not like the games I play with them when holding them to account in a conflict situation. They do not get that I do not care who I upset".

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14. Can it be the Objective Thinker - ISTJ?

The Objective Thinker is the Bernese Mountain Dog

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just make everything into a grand spectacle for the OT. And you will be hated.

The OT is naturally shy and they put stock into doing things the right, humble way. This does not mean they do not want acknowledgment for the things they do, merely that they will not appreciate it if your praise feels like an empty yet ostentatious display of your own abilities.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: Moves away.

Patterns that you do not like and why:

7 - The Promoter and 4 - the Inspirational. The OT returns the dislike in both cases. They are continually annoyed by their seeming disrespect for any and all rules and authority and their lack of focus and organisation.

Why the OT will be hated by others:

If the OT makes everything into a grand spectacle of their own ability.

Why the OT will not be liked by others:

Reason 1 of 6 options. It is not the case that introverts are not likable. However, it is true that people tend to underestimate the good qualities of introverts.

One issue from the school years is that the ‘show and tell’ approach is favoured not just in schools but in our society in general. Introverts rarely find themselves in the spotlight because they do not talk for the sake of talking. They only speak when they have something meaningful to say. Neither do they open up to people easily. One will never find an introvert sharing the story of their life to someone they have just met.

Importantly, introverts can only handle a limited amount of social contact. Too much interaction leads to emotional exhaustion also known as the ‘Introvert Hangover’. They will withdraw and may not pick up your calls or accept your invitations for some time.

These introvert behaviours are often misunderstood and lead to numerous misconceptions about these patterns. Introverts are mistaken for being conceited, rude or just plain antisocial. For this reason, many people do not like introverts and favor more open and easygoing folks.

However, if people do not like someone because of their introversion, the introvert should never forget that there is nothing wrong with them. They should not strive to become someone they are not – terrible things happen when an introvert tries to make themselves into a social butterfly. Forced communication will only bring unhappiness and will overwhelm.

An introvert needs to be sure that the right people will like and appreciate them. They will want to get to know others on a deep level. And this is much more powerful than being liked by everyone.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction:

The OT may take a while to get used to and comfortable with the Enhancer’s unconventionality, but the relationship drastically improves once they do. "I virtually only pick OT's as my friends since I learned Disc over 20 years ago".

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15. Can it be the Perfectionist - INTP?

The Perfectionist is the Papillon

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just do not listen to the Perfectionist. And you will be hated.

The Perfectionist is the natural 'professor' and this means that they will have topics or stories that they feel like they need people to know. This does not mean they need rapt attention and perfect silence all the time, just that you do not pick up your phone while your eyes glaze over the minute they start talking.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: Shuffles their feet.

Patterns that you do not like and why:

9 - The Specialist and 8 - The Counselor. The Perfectionist hates irrationality and when too much importance is placed on feeling by some of the introverted Feelers. The Counselor would simply appear as some kind of joke while the Promoter's endless flow of ideas would have their respect. The Perfectionist has some similarities to the Agent. The Specialist would probably get the prize of the most disliked.

Why the Perfectionist will be hated by others:

The Perfectionist does not listen to others.

Why the Perfectionist will not be liked by others:

Reason 1 of 6 options. It is not the case that introverts are not likable. However, it is true that people tend to underestimate the good qualities of introverts.

One issue from the school years is that the ‘show and tell’ approach is favoured not just in schools but in our society in general. Introverts rarely find themselves in the spotlight because they do not talk for the sake of talking. They only speak when they have something meaningful to say. Neither do they open up to people easily. One will never find an introvert sharing the story of their life to someone they have just met.

Importantly, introverts can only handle a limited amount of social contact. Too much interaction leads to emotional exhaustion also known as the ‘Introvert Hangover’. They will withdraw and may not pick up your calls or accept your invitations for some time.

These introvert behaviours are often misunderstood and lead to numerous misconceptions about these patterns. Introverts are mistaken for being conceited, rude or just plain antisocial. For this reason, many people do not like introverts and favor more open and easygoing folks.

However, if people do not like someone because of their introversion, the introvert should never forget that there is nothing wrong with them. They should not strive to become someone they are not – terrible things happen when an introvert tries to make themselves into a social butterfly. Forced communication will only bring unhappiness and will overwhelm.

An introvert needs to be sure that the right people will like and appreciate them. They will want to get to know others on a deep level. And this is much more powerful than being liked by everyone.

Reason 6 of 6 options. High Intelligence

The Perfectionist is always the top of the sixteen patterns when it comes to intelligence. Intelligent people often feel misunderstood and rejected. Even the greatest geniuses in history had to go through this, including Nikola Tesla and Albert Einstein.

Great spirits have always encountered opposition from mediocre minds. Often highly intelligent people are quite eccentric and lack social skills. They are deeply passionate about the specific niche of their interest which may be unpopular or difficult to understand for those around them. This is ‘Intellectual Loneliness’. It is when a highly intelligent person feels alone because they struggle to find someone of a similar intellectual level to discuss their ideas with.

They also do not easily conform to the unwritten social rules and want to delve into the essence of things instead of settling for superficiality. For all these reasons, highly intelligent people may encounter social rejection.

But why don’t people like them in the first place? Because their intellect is intimidating. After all, no one likes to be challenged or feel intellectually inferior. Highly intelligent people may be labelled as snobs or weirdos while, in reality, others just cannot understand them. It is our unfortunate natural tendency to perceive things and people we do not understand in a negative light.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction:

The Perfectionist is drawn to the Enhancer's intelligence and practicality. Brainstorming is always fun between these types, but the Enhancer will always try and get something useful from the interaction to solve a problem. The Perfectionist enjoys being part of that process with the Enhancer, the process of creating a new idea by just thinking and talking. "I only just tolerate the Perfectionist as they cannot balance perfectionism with completion".

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16. Can it be the Enhancer - INTJ?

The Enhancer is the Afghan Hound

Causing hate - the easy way:

Just give the appearance to the Enhancer that you are easily swayed. And you will be hated.

The Enhancer sees the world mostly in black and white and dislikes people who cannot take a stand even on the most basic issues. They respect people who show the courage of their convictions but it must always be based on undisputed facts. If they see you as being weak-minded they will never rely on you and will almost certainly have a negative view of you. They are the loners, after all.

Why not make the effort to pick their pattern and avoid this?

Your reaction when you hate the other person: "Goodbye."

Patterns that you do not like and why:

The Enhancer does not really have enemies. They understand every personality type and do not condescend to hate any of them. They probably think of others as noisy, all over the place, slight entertainment factors and very gullible. However, the Enhancer is automatically suspicious of those who do not take responsibility and this is likely to be some folk in the patterns of 5 - Persuader, 7 Promoter, 10 - Investigator and 11 Agent.

Why the Enhancer will be hated by others:

The Enhancer is aloof and a loner.

Why the Enhancer will not be liked by others:

Reason 1 of 6 options. It is not the case that introverts are not likable. However, it is true that people tend to underestimate the good qualities of introverts.

One issue from the school years is that the ‘show and tell’ approach is favoured not just in schools but in our society in general. Introverts rarely find themselves in the spotlight because they do not talk for the sake of talking. They only speak when they have something meaningful to say. Neither do they open up to people easily. One will never find an introvert sharing the story of their life to someone they have just met.

Importantly, introverts can only handle a limited amount of social contact. Too much interaction leads to emotional exhaustion also known as the ‘Introvert Hangover’. They will withdraw and may not pick up your calls or accept your invitations for some time.

These introvert behaviours are often misunderstood and lead to numerous misconceptions about these patterns. Introverts are mistaken for being conceited, rude or just plain antisocial. For this reason, many people do not like introverts and favor more open and easygoing folks.

However, if people do not like someone because of their introversion, the introvert should never forget that there is nothing wrong with them. They should not strive to become someone they are not – terrible things happen when an introvert tries to make themselves into a social butterfly. Forced communication will only bring unhappiness and will overwhelm.

An introvert needs to be sure that the right people will like and appreciate them. They will want to get to know others on a deep level. And this is much more powerful than being liked by everyone.

Reason 3 of 6 options. Strong and Independent Personality

Strong personalities are often intimidating. So if they wonder, ‘Why don’t people like me?’ the answer could be that they feel intimidated by their dynamic personality.

If one is a mentally tough person, they believe that when hardships knock at the door, it is time to act rather than to give in to complaining or blaming others. This is because instead of dwelling on failure, they prefer to focus on working out a solution.

Strong personalities always take full responsibility and expect others to do the same. When others try to avoid it with excuses, they may become pretty harsh with these people. For this reason, they may come off as insensitive because they do not tolerate drama and whinging.

Strong people also tend to hide their emotions as they often regard them as a weakness. They may be quite guarded and avoid opening up to others easily. For example, they will not share personal issues with co-workers or participate in workplace cliques and corporate gossips. Thus, people may confuse them for being emotionally unavailable and indifferent.

Being strong also equals being independent, which includes knowing who one is and feeling no need to prove anything to others. Strong personalities do not try to earn other people’s validation and acceptance. While this attitude is powerful, it can be easily misunderstood and push people away.

Reason 4 of 6 options. Non conformist.

It is natural for human beings to like and trust what is familiar to them. It is no secret that we find it easier to relate to people who are similar to us. For this reason, those who live unconventional lifestyles, have unusual looks or, most importantly, think in a different way often get rejected.

People do not like those who are different because at the subconscious level of our minds, we associate familiar with safe. That is why normal (aka ordinary) tends to be perceived as good. So if one feels that people do not like them, their unconventional way of thinking could be to blame. Maybe some of their ideas or views are too uncommon and scare people away because they cannot understand or relate to them.

But there is also another aspect of being a non-conformist. It could be that one refuses to conform to other people’s expectations of them. The non-conformist knows what they want and do not let anyone take advantage of them. It is the opposite of being a people-pleaser. Thus, if people do not like the non-conformist, it could be because they are not convenient for the other person. And that is a good thing.

It is a powerful quality in today’s conformist world and the non-conformist should cherish it. They are not afraid to stand out of the crowd; not with behaviour such as dying your hair blue. It is about having the courage to hold your ground and to have an unpopular opinion.

E. Hunter™, the Enhancer, may be an attraction:

The Enhancer is not particularly drawn to the Enhancer. "I do not know another Enhancer and I reckon there would be issues as there can be only one Captain and that would always have to be me".

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